7 Best Friend Traits Your Best Buddy Should Have

We all have that one friend we call our ‘best friend’; several if you’re really lucky. What sets these special people apart? What earns them that special place in our hearts? Below is a list of the seven traits of a best friend – the ‘x-factor’ that upgrades them from ‘regular’ friendships.

Seven Best Friend Traits

 

Generous

We sometimes expect to receive a little more from our friends. While not entirely fair, we are fortunate enough that the best friend gives this ‘little more’ willingly and with open arms – all without expecting anything in return. The best friend understands that a friend in need is a friend indeed, and gives accordingly (sometimes more than we deserve!).

Genuine

 The funny thing about best friends is that they are so alike and yet so different at the same time. Your best buddy could love watching boxing and UFC, but you couldn’t care less when you’re too busy on your latest gadgets. You’ll find that a true best friend is comfortable with these ‘private spaces’ between the two of you, and will not try to either impose his interests on you or be coerced into liking yours. He remains true to who he is and your friendship is all the richer because of this.

Humble

Sharing is a common feature in friendships, and occasionally, great life moments and/or achievements are included in this sharing. The best friend who does well (perhaps exceeding you and your standards) will happily share his proudest and most glorious life experiences with you without making you feel inferior and taking care not to come across as boastful and gloating. The best friend understands that shared joy is doubly joy, and practices the humility that comes with sharing one’s victories with another.

Patient

Each one of us have one or two – maybe more? – little quirks that annoy the hell out of other people. You will find that your true best friend will be annoyed/frustrated at some things you do and yet either wait for a right time to speak with you about it or patiently give you space for you to realize that you’re causing your friend some discomfort. A true best friend will not rush you into self-betterment, but rather walk with you step by uphill step, growing as an individual together with you.

Faithful

Your true best friend will never put anyone else before you, simply because he treats you as one of his own family members, and will always be a listening ear when you need to vent, a shoulder when you need to cry, and an open hand when you need some real, honest sense slapped on to your face.

Respectful

As ‘respect’ is a slightly vague term, it is lived more than spoken. A best friend knows his place in your life, and will not exceed that. He knows enough to not do anything that may disrespect or offend your sacred bond of best friendship.

Positive

When no one else believes in you, not even yourself, your best friend is there completely certain that you can do anything at all in life. The real best friend displays the trait of a life cheerleader: pumping you up, cheering you on, and never letting you quit. If need be, your best friend will go through hell and high water with you – because he simply believes in you and your capabilities. In a world of negative emotions and thoughts, the positive energy and light of a true best friend is virtually blinding.

Do you have any more best friend traits that didn’t make it on this list?

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engrmarkmorfe
engrmarkmorfe

I had friends with probably at least 2-4 traits that you posted. Though sad to say, I never had a best friend whom I can recall that stayed with me through thick and thin. 

ronniedare
ronniedare

Above all things you posted, respect is the biggest word of them all. Also being humble plays a big role.

gemdenise2002
gemdenise2002

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 this will encompass what we all want our best friends to have! What we should be too! :)

Teresa Martinez
Teresa Martinez

I have a few chosen real friends although I have many social friends.  The two are a lot different since the first group will have most of the things you mentioned here while the other group rarely does which is of course understandable.

tatess
tatess

I can't think of anything else to add, you said it all. I think as a friend,I have a lot of patience and even my hubby always tells me to find me another friends coz most of them are always asking for advices ,we talk almost the same problem but they don't listen. Well, that's what friends are for right, helping each other anytime, we are always there for each other.

mai_eaflores
mai_eaflores

Awww.. Jason! I actually texted my bestfriend now about possibly meeting up on the weekend.. Missed her all of a sudden! We're both busy most of the time. But when we really need each other, neither of us will check our planners. We're there for each other right away. Oh, and I also agree with you about treating each other us family already. My bestfriend makes sure that I get the best TLC in the world. I love her to bits! :)

dustgaudan
dustgaudan

Hear, hear. I agre to every point. Above all, for me, a best friend should be faithful. :)

rachelledramos
rachelledramos

Hmm.. can't find any that would describe me as a friend. haha! just kidding. i could say i'm a generous type and faithful. i tell my other friends, i'm a loyal friend that even you've done wrong to me i will still here. because i easily forgive and forget.

tauyanm
tauyanm

i agree with al the things listed above! nothing can compare and beat those best frends that we have right. To think seriously that they are like your sisters or brothers already =)

RosselEncarnacionDacio
RosselEncarnacionDacio

Looks like it is hard to find a person who possesses all of these traits. For me a true friend is one who loves you for who you are and sticks with you through thick and thin. 

maritel
maritel

Kaya naman pala...I caount only 5/7...no wonder I am not anyone's best friend. LOL!

franckxethee
franckxethee

Friends should be reliable, true and always there through the tough times.  Also, you need someone who can be honest with you when you are off track and bring you back on the right path.

exlink2001
exlink2001

Jason are you descrbing your best friend or your girlfriend? Lol. Seriously, it is hard to find one person having all these assets. So if you ask me I go with positive people who will raise me up, allow me to reach not only the stars but help me make an imprint to the moon.

MarkJosephGCT
MarkJosephGCT

For me, the most important traits my best friend should have are truthfulness and trustworthiness.  I need someone that i can trust and speaks nothing but the truth.

rochkirstin santos
rochkirstin santos

When I was in school, I would always go together with a best friend. After graduation, I do not know if I still do have best friends in my life. All become too preoccupied with their own career and lives; we do not bond as often anymore and we just hang out together once in a quarter. It's nice to have a best bud who can be there for you when everybody else turns their back. So now maybe I can consider my parents, sister and boyfriend as my best friends.

joshua120787
joshua120787

I have friends who have most if not all of these traits. Its nice to have a friend that does not impose himself or herself on you. They respect the differences you may have.

jsncruz
jsncruz moderator

 @engrmarkmorfe Hey Mark, thanks for sharing your personal experience.

 

Maybe all you need is some time before that friends walks into your life. Or maybe YOU will walk into someone's life :) Good luck buddy!

jsncruz
jsncruz moderator

 @ronniedare I agree! I've seen friendships destroyed because of pride issues, and disrespect for one's achievements, accomplishments, or capabilities :)

 

Thanks for that note, Ron.

jsncruz
jsncruz moderator

 @Teresa Martinez Definitely! It's also important to set boundaries too, I think, lest we "over-share", for instance.

 

Thanks for dropping by ma'am :)

jsncruz
jsncruz moderator

 @tatess You're a friend to many, ma'am, I can attest to that! 

 

Wisdom is something I think we also look for in friends, and it seems like you're a resource for THAT not just in your immediate circle of friends but to us you meet on digital space as well.

jsncruz
jsncruz moderator

 @mai_eaflores You're so lucky to have a friend who would do anything in the world for you :) I'm fortunate as well - I have more than a couple of friends who are like this to and for me, and I try my best to be that kind of friend to them as well. 

 

Good to know this post actually effected action on someone! :P Thanks for dropping by, Mai.

jsncruz
jsncruz moderator

 @dustgaudan Thanks for dropping by, Dust!

 

Nothing's better than a friend who sticks with you through thick and thin! :)

jsncruz
jsncruz moderator

 @rachelledramos You've got a really cool attitude and you should keep that up!

 

It's not easy to forgive friends, but it's a virtue in itself - and it does the soul good! Thanks for that insight :)

jsncruz
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 @tauyanm Definitely! Some of my closest friends are more than family to me :)

jsncruz
jsncruz moderator

 @RosselEncarnacionDacio Fair enough - that's a pretty good assessment on what a friend is! 

 

The reason people like these are hard to find is because they're meant to BE hard to find. How would we treasure something that isn't rare or worked hard for? :) Thanks for dropping by!

jsncruz
jsncruz moderator

 @franckxethee And all too often, it's that last part which is missing. Yes, they'll say what's wrong, but offer no solution to get you back up on your feet. 

 

Thanks for that, Franc.

jsncruz
jsncruz moderator

 @exlink2001 Well, she actually IS my best friend, but we didn't start out that way. I think those who end up dating a 'best friend' just complicates the friendship. In our case, it was the other way around and we grew into our friendship!

 

Thanks for pointing that out, sir ;)

jsncruz
jsncruz moderator

 @rochkirstin santos In my case, my work! :P

 

Seriously though, I see your point - we get more distant from our "best" friends as time goes on, and our lives seem to filter our friends down to the very few who really matter. Thanks for dropping by, Roch!

jsncruz
jsncruz moderator

 @joshua120787 Hi Josh, thanks for dropping by.

 

I totally agree. Very few things in life are better than friends who don't judge!